Marriage. What a beautiful gift from God. Skydiving. What a cool act of faith. Now, with these two acts in mind, I have a question for you. Would you skydive without a parachute? Of course not. Would you get married without God as the head of your life and your marriage. Same difference. How can either of you expect to have a successful marriage without knowing that both of you are able to love something outside of yourself? I am here to tell you, I would love that parachute with all my might as I jumped from a perfectly good airplane. The same must be true of you individually, your spouse individually, and the two of you collectively.
“Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and acts on them, may be compared to a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded on the rock. Everyone who hears these words of Mine and does not act on them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. The rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and it fell—and great was its fall.” (Matthew 7:24–27)
There are many reasons people get married, and many more excuses to get divorced. Kids, finances, affairs, “growing apart”, just to name a few I have recently heard. No storm, none that is known to man, can destroy the house that God has built. For it is only when one or both of the people in a marriage decide not only to take control, but also, decide what plans and joy are for their life, does the marriage begin to slide and ultimately may fail. Same with our own individual lives. We do not get to decide what God has planned for our journey. We continue to grow stronger in faith and have a closer relationship throughout our entire journey. For it is only when we take back control that we decide that we don’t like God’s plan and that our life has become dull and sour.
Marriage is an amazing journey. Yes, it is full of ups and downs. This is the exercise that God puts us through, together, in order to ultimately grow closer to Him and stronger in faith. If you are not yet married, rely in peace. Rely on God’s plan. Prepare yourself for the one that God has ultimately chosen for you. Grow, stronger in faith and relationship to God, so that when the time comes, and it will, you and your designed partner will meet and build that strong house on firm ground.
If you find yourself in a marriage that was not begun with God, rely on the fact that you are growing where you were planted. Get tapped into God’s plan for your lives. Be the encourager in the relationship to start seeking his will together. Can you honestly say that God is not big enough to save what he brought together? You can grow, no matter where your relationship is, as God is waiting for you….both.
Deacon Jason Bowden